Recovering from a traumatic event such as divorce, abuse, or death of a loved one takes a lot of time. Your body and mind are so depressed because of what’s going on in your life. While you may be tempted to ignore your feelings or dwell on them for too long, you need to focus on getting into a healthy mindset first. This can kick-off your healing journey.

Understand Your Pain

You can’t just try to move on without confronting the pain you have gone through. Just as you would treat a friend with respect, gentleness, and empathy, you should also confront your own personal challenges in the same way. Getting your feelings out there can help you think about where you need to go next.

Some people love to write down their problems in a diary or journal. Others prefer to go into therapy and talk about their feelings. Untying the knot of grief can be an exhausting experience, but at the end of the rope you’ll learn more about yourself and others.

Forgive Yourself and Others

Once you have established what your problems are, you are then able to forgive yourself (and others around you if necessary). If you are a victim of trauma , for example, you can learn to forgive those who have wronged you. This step is NOT easy. But it’s one of the most important ways to be able to heal from mistakes of the past.

Forgiving yourself is extremely important. You can’t let yourself hang on to guilt that festers and claws at you. Even if you technically didn’t do anything wrong, it’s important to set those feelings free.

Look to the Future

Now that you have let go of your negative feelings, understood the core of your problems, and have forgiven the people you needed to, it is time to focus on the future. Dwelling on the past is comfortable and cathartic sometimes, but it also impedes your progress to live life.

Channeling your energy into something productive can help you feel much better about your life. It allows you to make your life about more than the dark times. Healing is never easy, but you can come out of any situation with a better understanding of your life.

These are the hallmarks of any traumatic life event. You can’t leave yourself behind. Treat yourself with respect, let go of toxicity in your life through forgiveness, and move past it. It is possible for anybody to recover.

Help yourself emotionally heal by investing in yourself with counselling! Contact us to make an appointment.